THE EVEN IF THERAPY BLOG

Notes for the woman holding it all together

On perfectionism, people-pleasing, and learning to stop performing — written by a therapist who has been the Chronic Good Girl herself

Kellie Murry 10/20/26 Kellie Murry 10/20/26

Chronic Good Girl: Faith & Perfectionism | Even If Therapy

Faith and perfectionism can braid together until "good Christian" feels like a performance. My own Chronic Good Girl story — and a gentler way.

Kellie Murry 9/15/26 Kellie Murry 9/15/26

Woman reflecting on fear of making mistakes and perfectionism

Kellie Murry 9/8/26 Kellie Murry 9/8/26

Good job, good people, nothing technically wrong — and still flat. Why a good life can still feel unhappy, and what the flatness is pointing at.

Kellie Murry 7/7/26 Kellie Murry 7/7/26

Rest feels selfish, saying no feels mean. Why guilt shows up when women take care of themselves — and why guilt isn't proof you did something wrong.

Kellie Murry 5/5/26 Kellie Murry 5/5/26

Everyone else seems over it, but you're not. Why you can't just move on, what moving on actually requires, and healing tips that respect your pace.

Kellie Murry 3/18/26 Kellie Murry 3/18/26

Perfectionism promises control but delivers dread. Why it feels like anxiety instead of motivation — and what your nervous system is really doing.