THE EVEN IF THERAPY BLOG
Notes for the woman holding it all together
On perfectionism, people-pleasing, and learning to stop performing — written by a therapist who has been the Chronic Good Girl herself
Why Am I So Hard on Myself? Self-Discipline vs. Self-Compassion
A small mistake can ruin your whole day. Why you're so afraid of making mistakes, where that fear learned its lines, and how to loosen its grip.
Why Am I So Afraid of Making Mistakes? | Even If Therapy
Woman reflecting on fear of making mistakes and perfectionism
I Have a Good Life—So Why Don’t I Feel Happy? | Even If Therapy
Good job, good people, nothing technically wrong — and still flat. Why a good life can still feel unhappy, and what the flatness is pointing at.
Feeling Like a Burden? Why It Happens and How to Heal | Even If Therapy
You apologize for having needs at all. Where the "I'm a burden" feeling comes from — and why the people who love you see it differently.
Why You Second-Guess Yourself So Much
You replay conversations and poll friends before deciding anything. Why you second-guess yourself — and how self-trust gets rebuilt, one decision at a time.